I hear a number of my friends talk about how much they hate living in Memphis. Or, when they move away, there's a lot of bad mouthing and reminiscing about how much they hated Memphis. I've been guilty of it myself but maybe not so much lately.
We've had two chances to move away and we didn't take either of them. The first time, we had just gotten married and we decided to stay rather than try to relocate in North Carolina because we had such a great community of friends and family. And the second time, we considered Colorado and stayed for the same reason. Right after we chose to stay, we bought our current house. Although many of our friends rolled their eyes at us when we decided to stay put, I haven't regretted it. I can imagine that our experience with Garrett would have been different surrounded by strangers and without the medical care of one of the best high risk doctors in the country.
If you need flowers that survive in this area, I highly recommend coreopsis and salvia. Also, phlox and verbena which aren't in the photo.
I don't know why but this year I am hyper aware of the strangest thing...the way this area smells. The honeysuckles, trees, roses, just everything that comes together to make the scent of late spring and early summer in the bluff city. It smells like nostalgia. Or like a book about the Old South with its warm nights on the front porch with lemonade and fireflies.
I had to prune the heck out of the rose bushes and they seemed to survive it just fine!
Maybe it's because, for the first time, I'm really growing things? I have herbs, flowers, and fruit that survived the winter and my complete lack of growing talent. The strawberries are exploding and the roses I pruned smell divine. I harvested the first herbs this week and froze them for later.
Autumn doesn't love wind in her face or the noise of it so she's spent a good chunk of our drive times irritated with me. I put the windows down every chance I get to breathe in the cut grass and honeysuckle. I know it'll only be days before we're all laying around, praying for a break in the humidity. But for now, we experience spring with all of our senses.
I love this house but, boy, learning landscaping has been tough!! Especially since it was neglected so long before we bought it.
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I meant to post this yesterday but it was a super crazy day! I thought I'd show you someone who brightens my day:
And yesterday was her last day of school! I CANNOT BELIEVE IT. I didn't get any good photos of her yesterday but she graduated from Kindergarten on Tuesday and I got a few then. Sigh.
Weeks like this are always super bittersweet. I guess milestones make me think of the ones I won't experience with Garrett and now I won't experience with Grant (Kingston? I need to ask our social worker what he is now called). Grant has been on my mind a lot this week because I know someone will get to do all of these things with him and I hope that they know how blessed they are that they get to raise him.
Since this is a Brighten Your Day post, I won't linger on the bitter but on the sweet. Autumn has been an amazing blessing. I read posts sometimes about how many parents hate the idea of "seize the day" or "enjoy even the bad times." And I can respect that. I do get it, but without being all Mary Sue, I choose to revel in the gift of my family. I think some of it is personality. Sometimes I really want to just be gloomy and sit in a corner but that doesn't usually last long. I'm terrible at sulking.
Some of it is also the luxury of being able to be all Carpe Diem. I don't live in a war zone. We're pretty comfortably settled. I have a great spouse. I'm not battling a life threatening illness (anymore) and neither are Mike or Autumn. I appreciate those things and more, even on the harder days.
Now, just as an aside, I'm not meaning for anyone to apply this to their lives and feel bad. I'm just up early and thinking about how lucky I am. Even with all the heartache, I've got a great family (extended and honorary), great friends, a house where people can visit me, and a story of hope. I wouldn't mind having another little one to share all this with and I miss Garrett so much it hurts, but I can be content.
SO, all that to say, these guys brighten my day:
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I know this is going to sound insane but there is nothing that tickles me more than inappropriately dressed people at the gym. This one isn't limited to just workouts because, really, I have seen some hysterical people in all my years of training. I'm not the only one who has noticed all the crazy clothing. I can't find the actual photo they used, but in my AFAA lectures, there was a YES and NO photo of appropriate instructor dress. Basically there was PLEASE DON'T:
Makes sense to me. But, really, I don't see all that many instructors who make me go, "whoa, there." I see a LOT of gym people, though. Like, there's this one lady who comes in full tv pastor's wife makeup, hair teased like a lion's mane, and teeeeeeny tiny hot pants. I crack up every time she minces delicately into the room. I tell you what, though, I won't be standing behind her!
I wasn't so lucky a few years ago. Back when we were in the basement of another school, I took Muay Thai and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu classes from time to time. Boy, that was like being in a Rocky movie or something. There was no ventilation. Everything was concrete. By the end of the night, there was so much sweating and overheated body temps that condensation would collects on the walls and roll down into little puddles of sweat humidity all over the floors. I, ah, don't really miss those days.
I do miss a lot of the people and just the time--I made many of my closest friends there! I also have some of my best stories. A lot of bouncers were in those classes and, a lot of times, their stripper girlfriends would come to class. One time I had to run behind a lady wearing shorts so short that all I could see were her butt cheeks hanging out and bouncing. I have no idea how the guys survived. I guess they didn't because not too long after that, I walked in on the instructor talking to her about covering up a little more. She was crying so I turned around and marched right back out!
Some time later, after we changed locations, I was in another class and the girl that Tamara and I dubbed, "the naked chick" joined us. She seemed nice enough but, omg. She was, er, WELL ENDOWED. Like, really well endowed. Everywhere. But she would wear deep cut tank tops and, again, hot pants. IN A CLASS WITH GRAPPLING.
The first time it happened, the teacher asked, "Um, are you okay grappling in that outfit?" She said, "oh, absolutely." And he kind of paused. And thought. And pursed his lips. And THEN HE SAW ME. And we got paired up. And OF COURSE, that day's starting position? Head in your partner's chest. IT CANNOT BE UNSEEN. /shudder. Grappling will probably be a Wednesday Gym Adventure someday.
It's odd to me how many women do martial arts only partially clothed. The very first person I ever saw do it was a lady in my class when I was in high school. She wasn't very, ah, voluptuous and that class had no grappling so it wasn't quite the retina destroying experience but it was still pretty weird to see someone go through animal stances wearing hot pants (STOP MAKING THEM PLEASE) and a sports bra. 0.0
I didn't do Wushu but you get the idea. It's funny, my friend Andi and I ran into this lady many years later. She looked exactly the same, so crazy! We went into this yoga studio and found her contorted into an inexplicable position, in the same hot pants and sports bra, and she had candles and incense and New Age music. It's nice to know that some things never change.
To be fair, I tried to think of some guys who had on terrible clothing but usually they just look like a character from a bad movie. You know, sweat bands, socks to their knees, sport glasses for a minimally strenuous class? Also, there are some guys who REALLY need to consider how their shorts fit during situps. Seriously. Think on that if you're a guy who does ANYTHING involving lying down.
Oh, man. Now that I think about it, there was this one guy. His name was Guy, I think. Mike and I did a fitness boot camp for a long time. We love Tony! Back in the day, we'd work out at the University of Memphis at like 5am. I don't know what we were thinking. But it was a blast. Especially that time there was a squirrel running across everyone except it wasn't a squirrel it was a RAT. Blech. Anyway, Guy cracked us up so much. He would wear the sweat bands and everything but the weirdest thing? He dressed like an 80's ski instructor! Skin tight, usually purple patterned, spandex pants. Oh yes. Spandex.
Good times. See what I mean? This is some entertaining stuff. It's a nice distraction when I'm hurting from whatever horribleness the instructor is putting me through!!
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A few of my Facebook friends posted the above video today. It's probably the best news story I've seen come out of Oklahoma since I first walked into Lindsay's house with Autumn and saw the rubble on the tv. It was yet another Bad Thing Autumn and I had to talk about. But, she prayed for all the children and families and has been asking questions but not in an upset way. I'm sure it'll come up again but for now she seems okay. It'd be kind of cool if I could explain some good news sometime soon!
We're getting a little bit of that storm system right now. Or some storm system. The thunder rumbled all over today as we got ready for aikido. Autumn was all, "I don't think we should go to aikido." I told her that I kind of had to go because I am the teacher! I had a full house and one new potential student so I'm glad we did.
It rained and rained and hailed and thundered all through class. Between the music from the ballet dancers and the rain on the metal roof, I seriously had to raise my voice and lot and do some majorly exaggerated demonstration...that part might not have been a bad thing, though! However, right as we were getting lined up to bow out, the lights went out.
I knew Autumn was going to FREAK OUT so I called out, "nobody move!!" Then Julie, she and her husband Tom own CAA, called that there is a generator and it would kick in soon. When the low lights popped on, I saw Callie holding Autumn but other than that, no one had moved! And then Autumn leapt onto me and stuck like a barnacle. She wailed, "I TOLD YOU WE SHOULDN'T GO TO AIKIDO!!"
After I peeled her off, she got her things together and put on her rain jacket like we were leaving but there was no way in all that rain. I heard later that most of the streets were flooded and when I finally did leave an hour later, the power was out along one of the main roads. I took the picture with my flash. The generator lights were pretty low and where Callie and Autumn sat was really dark. But, Callie sat and told Autumn stories and made her laugh until the power came back.
The three of us sat there while we waited on the rain to stop and two of my teen students actually made it. One was so wet I gave him one of Stephan's old uniforms to wear. The other said it took her mom an hour to get there! It's usually about a 15 or 20 minute drive. Callie and her brothers stayed with Autumn while I taught the class. The weather calmed down a lot but it was so sweet of them and their grandmother to spend time with her when she was obviously nervous about the rain and thunder.
:) And that's what brightened my day today. Don't forget to enter our giveaway! You have until Sunday, May 26, 11:59pm CST to enter to win a 3 month subscription to Birchbox or Birchbox Man!
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It's GIVEAWAY DAY!! It seems like most of my friends have had a rough first half of 2013! Well, hopefully a week from today we can bring a smile to someone's face!! My friend Tamara of Candid Tamara and I are officially opening the Brighten Your Day Giveaway!
One lucky winner will get their choice of a 3 month Birchbox or Birchbox Man Subscription! The contest will run today through Sunday, May 26, at 11:59pm, Central Time. We'll announce the winner on Memorial Day, May 27. Because Birchbox's shipping is limited, this giveaway will be limited to those in the US, US territories, and anyone with an APO address.
Tamara introduced me to Birchbox, and this kind of subscription service in general, on my birthday last year. I love it. It is so fun getting a box in the mail every month. So fun, in fact, that I've gotten Birchbox, Ipsy, and Glossybox subscriptions as birthday and Christmas gifts for all my friends and family! I use the makeup and skin and haircare products every day. I'm actually wearing nail polish, face primer and lip gloss from one of my Birchboxes right now!
I know a number of men read this blog and I didn't want to leave you out! Luckily, Birchbox Man is here to save the day. I bought my brother and one of my brothers in law Birchbox Man subscriptions and they are LOVING it! My brother is even totally for the idea of getting Birchbox for Christmas, too! The Man boxes actually sound really awesome--socks, belts, boxers, AND grooming supplies. Too fun!
If you want to check out a couple of videos with more information on what comes in the boxes, here are some YouTube Sneek Peek videos!
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No purchase necessary. Open to Residents of the United States, its territories, and those with APO Boxes. Must be over 18. Giveaway will end Sunday, May 26th at 11:59 PM CST. One winner will be selected at random using Rafflecopter and we will announce the winner on Memorial Day, Monday, May 27. The winner will be emailed and he or she will have 48 hours to claim their prize or another winner will be selected. All information provided is solely for the purpose of contacting the winner. Birchbox, Facebook, Twitter and Google are not associated with this giveaway.
It's been SUCH a crazy week that I forgot to post yesterday's Wednesday Gym Adventures! Boo, me! I'll have it next week, though. ALSO NEXT WEEK! My friend Tamara and I are planning an extra special Holy Cow This Year Has Been Rough So Let's Do a Happy Giveaway giveaway. It should go live on Monday so stay tuned!!
We're getting ready for Autumn's birthday party this week. It's going to be pretty small, just family and two of her friends but I'm making all the fancy printables so I can sell them on my Etsy shop. Here's the invitation:
And, on Sunday, I'm helping my mom give her best friend a bachelorette party. It won't be anything too crazy but a friend of ours is going to do a belly dancing lesson! The funniest thing about that? When I first texted my mom with the idea, she mentioned it to the ladies in her salon. They got all excited but...not for the reason I expected. They thought I was going to hire a fat man stripper. I...wow...what? No. One of her coworkers was like, "hey, I know this man with a huge belly who could do it!" No word so far on whether or not they are as excited about BELLY DANCING as they were about Santa coming to dance.
My friend Christy who is an artist is going to do henna tattoos, too! She came over to practice and that's going to be super awesome! I can't wait. I'm also doing this one up with the printables so I can sell the set. Oddly, this background I made over at colourlovers.com has been really popular, getting liked and pinned. Who knew?
And for a complete turnaround, I meant to post this last week. My teacher Stephan linked this TED talk on Violence and Silence. It's a really fantastic talk. Straight up honest? I rarely actually listen to these when people post them because I'm, um, kind of lazy. I'd rather just read the transcript. But, because of Stephan posted this in the aftermath of Heather's funeral, I listened. Seriously, this needs to be spread around more. Watch and listen! Let me know if you do and what you thought.
I've been thinking about what to write today but I'm rather at a loss for words on this special day. Autumn is now a big girl of six years old. She graduates from kindergarten in a week. She has camps planned for the summer. She weighs herself many mornings hoping to break the 40 pound mark. She loves cats. She's a sensitive heart. She's a warrior and a princess. She's a fabulous helper. I'm thankful for her. And, I am so happy to say, so are many other people. It is a blessing beyond blessings to have a child who brings joy wherever she goes.
