Thursday, March 1, 2012

Adoption Update: Home Study Time



Yesterday Mike and I went to the intake meeting at Bethany where we got all of our paperwork for the home study portion of our adoption. There's a lot of it. I think we'll be able to get through it pretty quickly, though, so that's good.

We shared the meeting time with two other couples which made it a bit more awkward to ask questions than I expected. Like how to list credit cards on the assets sheet when we pay them off every month. It wasn't a huge deal because, as you can tell, I'm not a super private person so I don't really care but it was still a little weird.

The most awkward moment came when the social worker asked us if we only had one copy of the sheet Autumn's doctor has to fill out about her health. Mike said yes and then she made a big production about getting a second sheet from another couple (who didn't have any children) to give to us because she thought we needed two. Mike told her we only needed one and she said, in the midst of handing Mike the new sheet, that she thought we had two kids.

Sigh.

I said quietly, "We did but he passed away."

She felt terrible, I could tell. And we did put on the paperwork that we had a second child who was stillborn because while he didn't have a certificate of live birth or a social security number, there are many records that he was born and I thought it'd be better to be up front about it.

To quote Autumn's face up there: so, that happened.

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