Monday, January 14, 2013

It's Official Enough to Name Him

I know so many have been waiting on an update and I am so sorry!! I'm finally caught up on phone calls, emails, and texts...I think! If you have contacted me but haven't heard from me, definitely prod me!

We met our birth mom, I'll call her K, at noon today. The meeting went better than anything in my wildest dreams. We talked for 2 hours with almost no awkwardness or lag. She loves her three children at home so much and is such a great mom that we can only feel honored that she'd trust us with her son. I couldn't feel any better about having an open adoption than I do right now. I might not feel this way in a few hours but at this moment, I feel incredibly calm and comforted. It isn't only a great meeting that has brought such peace. It's also you, your messages, your prayers, and the amazing grace of God. Thank you. There is no sufficient amount of thank you that I can give to all of you.

As of right now, we are planning to bring home our son 10 days from when K can make it court to sign the paperwork. She and the birth mother counselor have already called to set the time but the chancery court didn't call before the end of the day. If the appointment is tomorrow, the come home date is Friday, January 25. If it is any other day this week, it will be Monday, January 28, because of the weekend.

Tohru's expression is how I feel.

I've got a lot more to say but for now, how would you like to know his name? We went around and around with a name. Mike had his heart set on the name Grant. I wasn't really feeling it until my friend Christine mentioned that she liked the gift aspect of the name. Mike mainly just thought it was a great name and I've been so flustered I wasn't thinking at all. But I always wanted a name that meant or indicated a gift or joy or laughter.

Autumn has my middle name for her middle name. And Garrett was Garrett Michael. We bounced around Grant Michael but that's way too similar. I told Mike I loved the idea of our baby having a family name. We went through a few of them and finally settled on one that was mentioned Saturday. Boppa's name is Nolan. I like that name a lot and I love the idea of our baby having his name. When I talked to K, she said that she had chosen a name but that she didn't have any attachment to it and asked what we picked. We told her, and told her the story behind the name, and she approves. So, it's official. I might have to get Mike to write about telling Boppa that we were naming the baby after him because it's a great story.


This afternoon I texted Grant's interim caregiver to find out the best way to communicate with her and told her my name and that the social worker gave me her information. The caregiver, I'll call her A, texted me back, "Are you Grant's mom?" My heart almost fell out through my feet. I got to call her and talk to her and A says Grant is a sweetheart, quiet and happy, rarely cries. She told us to sleep with a blanket to bring to him. I'll do that and pick up a lovey tomorrow for Autumn to sleep with. I think Mike and I might try to meet Grant in person Wednesday and Thursday A invited me to his one week pediatrician appointment.

This is just so unreal!!

12 comments:

  1. I'm getting so many chills! So wonderful. I love the name, too.

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    1. Thank you, Julia!! It's such a crazy journey!

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    1. Thank you!! We might have to schedule a makeup or discount for aikido the week Grant comes home but I'm not going to make any official decisions until we get him home with us!

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  3. Praising God with you & covering you in prayer! Having been adopted myself, I must say that my heart is about to explode with joy for your precious family!
    Lisa Chapman

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    1. Awww, thanks so much! You've been such a huge part of this--you just don't know!

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  4. My name is Brooke Yarbrough. Kiah and Kristen are part of our family and we think the world of the Sellers/Colley crew. I just wanted to tell you that I have been following you since Garrett's passing and have been praying for you. I will continue to pray for you guys as you embark on this new journey. Our family has also endured a great loss, my 22 month nephew passed away, three years ago. God has been by our side through everything as we adjusted to our "new normal" and he will also continue to carry you!

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    1. Oh, my goodness! I was talking to Lainey when your comment came in and we are just so amazed at who reads our blog and has been praying with and for us these last months! I'm so sorry for your loss...it's something that never quite heals but I'm so glad we all have a greater hope. Thank you so much!

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    2. I actually met Lainey at Kiah and Kristen's wedding. Our boys, Rome and Nash, were in the wedding. Small world. I believe that all God's children are really more connected on this Earth than we even realize �� After all, it is all really just His plan.

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  5. My stomach does flip flops every time I put myself in your shoes - what an emotional few days this has been! Know that so many (lots of folks you'll never meet!) are praying for you guys. And it's been awesome to see God working through your journey.

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    1. Oh, man, you aren't kidding about the flip flopping stomach!! Thank you so much for your prayers! And for loaning us your baby's name, haha.

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