Saturday, March 9, 2013

Relationships, Transformation, Inpiration

I'm hoping that in the next couple of weeks I can bring you all up to date on the aikido situation. A few things are still working themselves out but I can tell you that I have officially cut ties with the school I wrote about. I spoke with the head of the school and it was an odd conversation that started with "you don't train hard enough and that's why you got hurt" and ended with "what happened to you was negligent bordering on criminal." I pointed out, politely, the inconsistency. I tried to make it clear that I don't want to burn bridges, although I don't know if I succeeded. And I also told him that I'm not trying to change his school. The way they train is obviously working for them. But it's not for me. Although we are no longer associated schools, I do hope I can still go to seminars hosted at their location. Maybe not this year but perhaps someday.

There's more to the conversation that I'll write about because I still need to process and it might take more than one post. But a few days ago, I got a call from a potential student. He's been injured and is getting back to health. I'm not sure if he'll end up joining us, but we had a great conversation about training safely but intensely and the difference between self-defense, combat, and martial arts...because they aren't the same thing no matter how many martial arts instructors call their classes self defense classes. If you're ever interested in true self defense, No Nonsense Self Defense is a great place to start. Anyway, when I got off the phone, I told Mike that talking to someone else who has been a martial artist for a long time and who is recovering from an injury, and who called me specifically because of our safety standard was confirmation that I made the right choice. More confirmation because to be honest, the real confirmation is the relief I feel.

I'm sure it's just because I am thinking about this a lot, but I've come across a few things I thought I'd share that go along with all of this. One is an article I came across through someone's link list. I can't remember who. It's called "When Something's Not Okay: Pondering Relationship and Reconciliation." It's a fantastic post and I have covered something similar in the past. I highly recommend reading the full article but here's an except:

You know, the word “forgiveness” gets thrown around a lot in Christian circles. Particularly at women. Particularly at women when they notice injustice and dare to speak up about it (or even, like in my case, just confiding hurt in a friend). Ephesians 4:32 or the Lord’s Prayer is whipped out before anyone can do any critical thinking, and the mantra “forgive one another as Christ has forgiven you” is recited as a tool to silence, to shame, to force those with no power into submission.

This video is downright beautiful. Beautiful. This is what I want to be. I want to be the person who brings inspiration and life and health. Not pain and stress and injuries.

Another kind of beautiful:"We are graduating members of the Class of We Made It." "Our lives will only ever always continue to be a balancing act that has less to do with Pain and more to do with Beauty."

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