Tuesday, April 16, 2013

PSA: My friend is missing

My heart hurts today. I just got the news that my friend Heather's estranged husband Chris allegedly  kidnapped her early this morning* is missing. The "good" news is that the kids are safe. He, for some reason, took them to school. Family members have the children now but Heather is still missing. I have more details but they are a bit complicated so I won't bother with them.

I'm going to post her photo but first please, please take this to heart: most acts of violence are not between strangers. If you are ever afraid of a friend, family member, spouse or significant other, do NOT hesitate to get help! Listen to that gut feeling. I even have statistic reports: herehere and here.

If you are in a situation that is or could become dangerous, please seek help. This is not your imagination. This is not something where you're just being paranoid. Here are some resources you can start with: No Nonsense Self-Defense's Stalking and Domestic Violence Portal; Domestic Violence International Resources; and Signs of Relationship Abuse

Here's the information on our friend: Heather Palumbo-Jones. Missing since early morning April 16, 2013 from the Germantown, Tennessee area, a suburb outside of Memphis. Her estranged husband Chris Jones is a suspect in her disappearance. *Edit: Chris has been taken into custody and released. We are now concentrating on locating Heather. Contact the Germantown Police Department or Memphis Police Department if you have any information. 

Update 1:02pm: Police have located Chris. Still no sign of Heather. I'll update when I have more information. 

Update 3:26pm: Prayer vigil for Heather Palumbo-Jones at 1900 South Germantown Road - G'town Municipal Park Pavilion at 5pm. If you can't come pause with us at 5 and lift her up.

No word on where Heather is. Chris is still in custody and being questioned.

Update 9:25pm: Chris has been released. No other information on him yet although I believe they could not hold him because of lack of evidence. Still no Heather. Local news station WMC-TV 5 posted the beginning of a story. 

Now, so has WREG

Update 4/17: New blog post

13 comments:

  1. I attend church with Heather and Chris and none of us knew about the abuse until she left. I was Ava's catechesis teacher for several years and felt like I knew them fairly well. You never know what's under the surface. I'm heartbroken.

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    1. Heather and I haven't been friends very long, I think we became friends at the end of her marriage so all I knew is that things were rough. I had no idea that there was anything at all that could escalate into something like this. I have been sick all day. When I was a kid there was a night when I thought my dad had killed my mom. He didn't. She went back to him eventually. I have been reliving that night all day today.

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    1. If you subscribe to the blog temporarily, I think you'll get an email whenever I post--or add it to a feed reader if you use one. Or you can check back here from time to time. I haven't gotten any more real news but when I do, I'll put up a new post since there haven't been any developments today. I'm so sorry, I'm not sure blogger has an easier way for you to follow about Heather without following everything I post!

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    2. Thank you. I'll follow your blog. Consider me your newest reader. I know Heather from the JCC. Her son is the same age as mine.

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    3. I'm so sorry we're meeting like this. I know Heather from the Germantown Athletic Club. Ava and Autumn are about the same age (and about the same level of interesting, ha).

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  3. I knew Chris a long time ago. He was a very sweet person on the outside. He started dating one of my friends in school and he abused her. This is truly awful. When i saw this, I got chills because I remember the way he was back then. Prayers for Heather, her beautiful children, and their family.

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    1. Oh, no. I just...wow. To know that he had a pattern for so many years. I got chills just now reading this.

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    2. Yes. I was conflicted about posting anything here, because I dont know Heather at all. And until some of the details came out, I wasnt sure if abuse was even an issue. But the little info I have seen....is exactly what I thought. I hoped he had changed. I havent seen or talked to Chris in over 20 years.Friends on Facebook, and it looked like everything worked out with him. I was happy for him. But now reading this....Thank u for letting me get this out on this forum.

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    3. I'm glad to do what very little I can. The one thing I learned after our son passed is how incredibly intense this stuff can be for friends and acquaintances so I am glad you shared. I can't do much for Heather and her family and friends but this and maybe talk more about how crazy stuff happens behind the scenes ALL the time and maybe put more information on how to get or give help out there.

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  4. You are doing great! I see now that the news channels are covering this. Anymore info that you have?

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    1. I think I accidentally deleted my comment...I was saying that I *just* added the news stories. The only other thing I know is that Chris has been released. If you see any other reports, definitely let me know!

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