Wednesday, April 24, 2013

Rest in Peace, Friend

Christina Rosetti
REMEMBER me when I am gone away,
Gone far away into the silent land;
When you can no more hold me by the hand,
Nor I half turn to go, yet turning stay.
Remember me when no more day by day
You tell me of our future that you plann'd:
Only remember me; you understand
It will be late to counsel then or pray.
Yet if you should forget me for a while
And afterwards remember, do not grieve:
For if the darkness and corruption leave
A vestige of the thoughts that once I had,
Better by far you should forget and smile
Than that you should remember and be sad.

The post I wanted to write started with, "well, I was wrong..."

But that isn't going to happen.

I just caught the news that Germantown Police found the body our friend Heather Palumbo-Jones last night. We all knew this was how it was going to end the back of my mind there was always that hope that she'd done something stupid and then we could all be mad at her and not weeping at the empty space she has left behind.

I called Mike so he'd hear from me first. Before, we prayed to find Heather. Today, we pray for justice. This is probably horribly out of context but I think of the verse that our church's adoption ministry took as their name: Isaiah 1:17:

Learn to do right; seek justice. Defend the oppressed. Take up the cause of the fatherless; plead the case of the widow.

I'm headed out to a friend's school to do some aikido with her PE kids. Please pray for me. I'm not holding together super great right now. If any more news or video comes up, I'll post it here when I get home. For now, here are some links:

While it's up: Live Stream of the Press Conference
Million dollar bond for Chris, he's been charged with second degree murder.
Our friends Melissa and Elizabeth were both on camera at the press conference.

Press Conference video clip is up:
Action News 5 - Memphis, Tennessee


  1. I'm so sorry. And so sad. Those poor children...

  2. Sharaze, we don't know each other... but please share these stories with the friends of Heather's who have been in contact with the prosecutors. I was also someone who knew Chris when he was young. Please also let these brave people who are posting about their pain know that they are not alone, and there are many stories out there of people who were abused by Chris Jones. Many will never come forward, but some have. Please don't let these stories just fade away here on the blog. Heather Palumbo-Jones' Facebook page is still up, and many of her friends will accept messages. I reached out to someone I recognized on the news to share my story. Chris Jones has not entered a plea yet, and if his lawyer tries to go for a plea of: "not guilty by means of temporary insanity," then every story, every moment of pain he inflicted in his past could help prevent him from abusing another woman, or man, or child. There is no statute of limitations on rape in TN. Also, minors who were involved (and there were minors involved) don't have to prosecute him individually, they can just share their stories with the prosecutor. The only way to stop the cycle of abuse is to come forward... in any way we can. He could be out in 10 years (due to prison overcrowding, parole, good behavior, etc), while his children are still minors, unless we are brave, resolute and willing to do what is necessary... even if it is very hard for us personally.

    1. Thank you so, so much for sharing yourself here. I contacted Melissa to get information from the police and/or prosecutor on how other victims can get in touch with them. I also contacted a friend of mine. He is a federal prosecutor who used to be a local ADA. And before that he was a domestic violence advocate. Once I gather the information, I'll do a post with all of it and get that information to as many people in Chris Jones's circle as I can. Are you at all interested in turning this comment into a guest post? If so, please feel free to contact me at sharaze at Thank you again.