Sunday, October 13, 2013

CYG, Days 12 and 13: Article and Book

I haven't read a lot of books on grief. I don't know why. We did the GriefShare study but other than that, I've avoided books. Someone gave me a copy of Heaven is for Real but I couldn't being myself to read it. Partly because I wasn't in a frame of mind to really appreciate that kind of book and partly because even at my best, that's not really my style. I have read a ton of great articles, though. I've blogged about some of them.

The one that has stayed with me is In which God has asked too much of us by Sarah Bessey. I'm sure there are exceptions to this but I feel like the only the people who have never suffered or who refuse to actually deal with their grief can say to someone that God will never give you more than you can handle. Now, don't get me wrong, I get not wanting to deal with the grief and the hurt. I make a conscious decision, perhaps daily, to feel. To be awake. From Bessey's article:

And I want to dig a hole with my bare hands and stay there in a field and in the damp cold, and tell the world that I am so angry, so sad, so longing, I can hardly breathe.

Which leads me to a post I haven't written about yet. After that weird "dear teenage girls" article that came out about modesty (complete with half naked photos of her boys...), an article called Seeing a Woman by a pastor named Nate Pyle went viral. I thoroughly enjoyed his perspective and after seeing some other quotes from him ("If Jesus wouldn't fit your description of a man, you have done nothing but offer a worldly stereotype"), I followed him on Twitter and read some of his old posts. Around the same time, a friend happened to link his words on Confronting the Lie: God won't give you more than you can handle. He highlights part of text of 2 Corinthians 1:8 and 9

"For we do not want you to be ignorant, brothers and sisters, of the affliction we experienced in Asia. For we were so utterly burdened beyond our strength that we despaired of life itself. Indeed, we felt that we had received the sentence of death. But that was to make us rely not on ourselves but on God who raises the dead"

Later, Paul will write it is when he is weak that the strength of Christ is seen. In other words, when we can’t do it any longer. When we are fed up. When it has become too much. When we have nothing left. When we are empty. When it is beyond our capability to deal with it. Then, in that moment, the strength of the God of resurrection will be seen. Until we get to that point, we rely on ourselves thinking we can handle it and take care of the problem.

Yes. These are the words of someone who has lamented. Despaired. And, frankly, these are the words I want to hear. Not that God is making me stronger. Not that God won't give me more than I can handle. Not that God is bigger. I guess on that note, I'll sign out with another quote from another blogger called A Psalm of Lament for a Boy Now Gone. You should read it. It, too, is beautiful in its sorrow and confusion.
Forgive those who think everything is fine,
who are eager to assert your good reign.
Strike dumb those who would dare to say
this was your will, a part of your plan.
Restrain those who would rush to affirm
that all things work together for good.
If you, God, can do all things, then couldn’t you
accomplish your good without this grief?

This blog post is for the worldwide event Capture Your Grief in honor of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. Day 12. Article: Have you read an article about grief that you would love to share with everyone? Maybe it is something from Still Standing Magazine or a blog post from your favourite blogger or writer. Please feel welcome to share who wrote the article and how the article resonated with you and also the direct link to the article if it is online. Day 13. Book: Have you read a book about grief that helped you immensely in your journey of grief? Please feel welcome to share the book and links to where it can be purchased so others can find it.

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